83. Filtering the world through a lens

Once we develop an emotional attachment to someone, we start filtering the world through that lens.

Psychologists refer to this as Selective Perception.

We cannot verbalize the reason we are drawn to someone. We cannot list them out. 

Most of the time, we are presenting a version of ourselves that we think will be accepted. But when a man starts being his unfiltered, goofy, or vulnerable self around a woman, it means he feels emotionally safe.

Authenticity Bonding, say Psychologists, is the deep human need to connect with people who allow us to be real in a relationship, & this is the foundation of long-term relationships. 

We all have people in our lives we care about, but how many can we honestly talk to without feeling judged or misunderstood?

As a result, dilemmas about relationships continue throughout our lives.